IBS and Dating 2017
Dating already seems complicated in 2017, am I right? But IBS and dating, what is this insanity!?
Throw IBS into the mix and it becomes interesting to say the least (bowel habits and first impressions…whoa).
Do I just spill out on my Tinder profile my digestive illness and that I might poop a lot…LOL!!!
That sounds a bit like social suicide.
Introducing IBS To Your Relationship
First off, are you just dating or is this something serious?
Don’t feel like you need to spill the beans on the first date!
I never told anyone on the first date about my illnesses, if my diet was restrictive, I just simply told them I had to eat a certain way and some restaurants wouldn’t work.
Not one person pushed the issue.
Most people don’t leak all of the details of their life troubles on date number one anyway.
In fact, that’s frowned upon on first dates.
The first date is all about first impressions, and you want those to be good.
If you’re afraid of IBS symptoms getting in the way of those first few dates, I do have several recommendations.
Date Options For IBS Folks!
Worried about trigger foods and embarrassment? Ditch the classic dinner and a movie and go on a date that’s food-free.
I’d also work in a low FODMAP diet for yourself in general, this will cut down on symptoms overall and can certainly improve your IBS and dating situation.
You’ll be much less likely to have a flare up or experience major symptoms in your day-to-day life.
The diet will also be helpful if you’re into the dating scene. Less symptoms means more successful dates!
Who said you have to eat on a date? Take a walk in the park and get to know each other!
A few other first-date options that are IBS-friendly:
- Art Projects (can be done at home or you can take a class and even visit a business that allows you to make art creations!)
- Food Option: picnic (choose IBS-friendly foods) OR a restaurant you know is a safe choice.
- Catch a show! (local plays and theater productions)
- Watch the sunrise/sunset together.
- Visit a tea room (herbal teas are amazing for IBS, or host your own tea date!)
- Take things old-school at the arcade!
- Go for a hike.
When To Tell Your Date You Have IBS?
There’s no specific time-frame to tell your partner about your IBS.
It’s entirely up to you, but, I wouldn’t recommend this being the first thing you tell someone and you shouldn’t put it off for a long time either.
When a relationship becomes more serious, it will be important for your partner to know and understand your illness.
By not filling them in on your IBS, you’re leaving out a huge part of your life which is unfair to both of you.
Eventually, you should find a point in time where you feel very comfortable telling your partner things about your life.
I’ve been in relationships where I never felt 100 percent comfortable around the other person, that should be a huge red flag!!
That’s never going to be a successful relationship.
My point is, if you’ve never found the right time to tell your partner and a good chunk of time has passed, maybe it’s time to move on to something more meaningful in life.
Something else I want to touch on is your partner’s reaction, if they’re going to react negatively towards your illness, that’s another huge red flag, get out of there!
A truly serious partner that cares about you will not see your illness as a negative impact on the relationship.
Why do you think they say ‘in sickness and in health’ at wedding ceremonies?? Because we cannot predict life’s plans and IBS or any other illness should not turn someone special away.
In the three years that I’ve been with my boyfriend, he’s always been understanding, supportive and helpful whenever needed.
Low FODMAP Cookbook For Your Dating Lifestyle
I have a couple reasons for mentioning this awesome low FODMAP diet book.
The low FODMAP diet for IBS is life-changing, in a very very good way.
If you’re dealing with some major, nasty IBS symptoms, seriously, give this diet a try.
You’ll still have tons of food options on this diet, and this cook book right here, it’s full of deliciousness!
This cookbook stands out to me from any other low FODMAP book because it’s helpful, informative and the recipes are actually amazing.
In addition to this diet, continue to avoid any of your known IBS trigger foods.
Feeling good as much as possible will make it easier to successfully go on a date.
This is important if you don’t already have a partner and wish to find one.
My Dating and IBS Journey
I’ve been out with plenty of dates over the years, most of them unknowing of my diagnosis.
Every serious partner I had knew all about me and IBS and how it affected my day-to-day life.
NOT ONE of those partners walked away when I told them I had IBS and explained what it was.
So please, if that ever happens to you, don’t chase them or feel sorry about it.
Shallow folks don’t belong in your life and they can’t handle this lifestyle…and that’s okay.
I’ve always believed that what is meant to be will happen.
My boyfriend of three years knew from early on that I had IBS and it takes a toll on my life daily, whether in big or small ways.
IBS and dating doesn’t have to be rocket science.
I believe dating with IBS is a blessing in disguise.
Your dating and relationships will be tested in more ways than usual, which is great in an age where divorce prevails.
You can also tell a lot about a person by how they handle a situation with you when symptoms strike!
Most great partners will be quick to help out and be supportive in any way possible.
Top Quick IBS Relievers For Tonight’s Date!
Discovering Heather’s Tummy Care line was like a gift from the universe for me.
Whether I’m going on a date or not, I want a quick and easy fix.
Nobody wants to suffering, no matter the occasion.
Out of my nine years of having IBS, I’ve used these products for the last eight!!
These are great options to help you through your IBS and dating lifestyle!
The tummy fiber is amazing if you have IBS C (constipation), it’s going to better regulate bowel movements and digestion.
The teas and capsules are great for multiple IBS symptoms, especially bloating and cramping!
The peppermint capsules are easy to throw in your purse and take anywhere you go.
Heather’s Tummy Fiber POUCH Organic Acacia Senegal (16 oz) for IBSHeather’s Organic Peppermint Tea Bags, (36 Jumbo Teabags) for IBSHeather’s Organic Fennel Tea Bags (45 Jumbo Teabags) for IBSHeather’s Tummy Tamers – Peppermint Oil Capsules with Ginger and Fennel
Photo Credit 1: By Max Pixel